Open Book Blog Hop – I want it all!


What one thing would you give up to become a better writer?

Sometimes when I see the topic for the open book blog hop I am not sure exactly what I think about it. It may be a topic I have never really thought about or considered before. This is one of the reasons I was drawn to participate in this particular challenge; it forces me to think about new and interesting things.

I have read a few of the other posts on this particular topic and I have come to know that I would not give up anything. Everything I do is important to me and I am more of an “adder oner” than a “giver upper” of anything. This does not mean that I construe the idea of giving something up in order to write in a negative light, it merely means that I like everything I do and feel a need to do it all and balance it all. It works most of the time for me as I am very versatile and adaptable.

I currently have a full time job in corporate finance which is fairly demanding and time consuming. I have a family with two sons, Greg and Michael, aged sixteen and thirteen, respectively, a husband, parents who live on the same property as I do, three sisters, two nephews, three nieces, a sister-in-law, a mother-in-law, an aunt and my husband’s grandmother, all of whom need to be visited and entertained and made much of (especially mother). I have to help Michael with his school work every night and help prepare him for his tests and exams and I tested Greg at least four times on every section of his school work prior to his recent exams (did I mention his average for the exams was 83% with averages of over 90% for history and computer science?). Hubby also likes to tell me about his problems  day from time to time and I need to engage and listen. I also like to bake and create fondant art as well as make chocolate and gingerbread houses, work on my writing and read and write blogs.

Of course, there is also marketing my books which is a bit hit and miss for me but I try to visit Twitter, Instagram and WP regularly even if the rest slip a bit.

Would I give anything up? Well, no. It is a bit of a stretch to manage it all during busy times at work and my boys examinations, but I seem to manage okay. I don’t aim for to much in respect of my writing goals, as said previously my target is 3 000 to 3 500 good words per week, that includes my editing as I go along. This works for me, I am happy to be a writing plodder.

What would you give up, if anything, in order to write?


  1. Link your blog to this hop.
  2. Notify your following that you are participating in this blog hop.
  3. Promise to visit/leave a comment on all participants’ blogs.
  4. Tweet/or share each person’s blog post. Use #OpenBook when tweeting.
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46 thoughts on “Open Book Blog Hop – I want it all!

  1. Terrific post, Robbie…writing as an “add on” is especially sought because it has to be done once all of the other obligations are satisfied…yet it does need to be done, doesn’t it?

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  2. Some people, think that writing is easy, and forget we have other juggling to do. Living life and fitting things in, stretching ourselves to add new learning … or time for relaxing, it adds to our knowledge and keeps our minds actively perusing what is around us. Those things give us the open mind to explore, to create. If we only sat at our spot and tapped our pencil and keyboards, we would soon dry up. So we do, we try, sometimes we fail, but always need to keep going great post Robbie.

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    1. Thanks for joining the conversation, Ellen. Writing is jolly hard work, first you need a decent idea, then you have to write it down, then you have to edit it about six times and then you have to check the type set document. There is research and I often find I have to check the most obvious things like an exact location. I know where the place is but not exactly so I have to look it up.


    1. You certainly have written a reasonable number of books, Stevie, so I imagine you are very prolific when you do write. I have to do a lot of research for the historical parts of my books and that takes a lot of time hence my plodding writing method. If I write a straight story like the horror ones in the various anthologies, the writing is quicker. I’ll get the whole 2 000 to 3 000 word outline in during one sitting.

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  3. A good answer, Robbie. It would seem a shame to have to give up anything from your busy life, though maybe pushing a few of those relatives off a cliff might help. Just a suggestion…. 😉

    I think you’re well within your rights to adopt as your mantra ‘I want it all, and I want it now!’

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    1. Thank you, Clive. I think this is the mantra of the young these days. The only thing is, I am not sure if everyone is prepared to work as hard as I do in order to achieve it all. I just like doing things like entertaining, writing and blogging so consider them my relaxation. I enjoy elderly people. They are interesting and full of stories. They also love my baking.

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      1. I think the young have always been like that, certainly in my lifetime. I grew up during the 60s when mass communication was just beginning to take off, and it opened our eyes to how much the world had to offer. As you say, the difference is between those who are prepared to work and those who expect things to fall into their lap. As an ‘elderly’ person I’m sure I’d love your baking too 😊

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  4. You do very well with juggling many balls and you are proof that you can have it all. I was similar before I retired but I did give up sewing when I started to write seriously. I used to sew after work and dinner etc. I sewed my own suits for work, evening dresses, outfits for my kids and grandkids and even doll clothes. But once I started to write for publication, I wrote instead during that time. I still miss it a bit but something had to go.

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    1. Maybe you could still make the odd thing, Darlene. I don’t bake as much as I did now that I am writing adult novels but I still bake make fondant art form time to time. I used to dress make when I was younger too. I made clothes for all my dolls when I was younger. Lots and lots of amazing dresses and outfits that I designed myself.

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  5. Wow Robbie. You indeed have a handful and you’re managing awfully well. But I do know what you give up to do all this 🙂- sleep. Its impossible to get all of the things you do and that too so well and get those 7 or 8 hours of sleep. Please don’t tell me you don’t give up on sleep either or I’ll think you have magical powers. 🙂This post set me thinking. Its interesting and I can’t help but wonder what I’d give up for writing.

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    1. Thanks for your comments, Smitha. It is very interesting to consider what you would give up in order to do something else. I like my day job, adore my family and relatives and enjoy baking, blogging, writing and fondant art so I just chip away at them all and keep it all afloat.

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    1. Thanks Kerfe, you are right about that. The time and attention is different now, they have their friends and own activities. They like to tell me about their days at school and their problems [which are huge for them]. I always know the most about school life than anyone else, it is because I talk to my boys. I help them with their school work because that is the right thing to do and it is interesting [which is just lucky for me].

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  6. The “marketing your books” part can feel like a time drain, when you get no apparent results, but you have to keep on plugging away!

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    1. I think for me, it depends on what the marketing is. I love blogging and engaging with other bloggers so that part of “marketing” is fun. I like writing guest posts too. I don’t love twitter or instagram, but I make a bit of time for them each day. It is the best I can do.

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  7. Too soon there is limited family. We are the grandparents of our grandchildren… meaning that I have no living grandparents and only one step-parent. We are lucky to have some family close – and the in-laws make things nice too. But for those who live their own lives further away… I can’t make their choices.

    My thinking is along yours. I like where I am now and how I play. Our children both in their 30’s… I’ve done enough to earn the right to write when I want. That may change in a few years when Hubby retires…

    I’ll keep an open mind to publishing, but I’m not a worrier for promoting me. If I were to ever become famous I think I’d like to be a famous recluse. I don’t want the responsibility that comes with recognition – If I ever win the lottery maybe I can hire someone for that job 😉

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